So I have been spending the last two weeks of my summer break at home in Mo Val taking care of my grandparents, amongst getting prepared for the next semester. These last couple of days in particular, have been somewhat "unearthing" in regards to my grandparents' current conditions.
As a summary of how I got blessed/stuck with the people whom my mother and I affectionately call, "The Elderlies", here's a short chronicling of my exploits leading up to that point: Life's going great; school's not. Life socks me in the groin with a frying pan; school's still not getting better. My attempts to hit Life's curve ball end up with me back on the batter's bench; school keeps going down the drain. Then...
"Lighting has done struck my brain"! -- Smee
My Mom moves the g-parents in over the summer, and the caretaker she's hired to take care of them isn't working out. So I see an opportunity for some much needed poise development, (as well as a chance to maybe escape the hardships of life for a bit). So with some reluctancy, my mother allows me to assist her full-time, and put my campaign for higher-ed on hold.
The ride has been bittersweet -- much like every worthwhile adventure in life -- and I've come to at the very most respect my mother's parents. After decades of not knowing my g-parents -- and then discovering the horrors of why my mother took such precautions -- I am excited to say that my life has become much more humbled, and I have begun to stop distinguishing myself over others around me, (such as my grandparents). When you take the time to analyze "the sins of the father" within your life, you learn to refine the standards and perspectives you have for yourself (Ezekiel 18). You learn to see less of your appearance in a mirror, and focus more on the reflection of your true character
So I've said all this to state that my time with them could be over than any of us previously expected. Grandpa's mind and energy are depleting on a faster scale than they have before. Grandma's health is dissipating unexpectedly as well. So although my relationship with them is by far not the greatest, I appreciate that they were able to be blessings to me through God's careful and creative planning
The ride has been bittersweet -- much like every worthwhile adventure in life -- and I've come to at the very most respect my mother's parents. After decades of not knowing my g-parents -- and then discovering the horrors of why my mother took such precautions -- I am excited to say that my life has become much more humbled, and I have begun to stop distinguishing myself over others around me, (such as my grandparents). When you take the time to analyze "the sins of the father" within your life, you learn to refine the standards and perspectives you have for yourself (Ezekiel 18). You learn to see less of your appearance in a mirror, and focus more on the reflection of your true character
So I've said all this to state that my time with them could be over than any of us previously expected. Grandpa's mind and energy are depleting on a faster scale than they have before. Grandma's health is dissipating unexpectedly as well. So although my relationship with them is by far not the greatest, I appreciate that they were able to be blessings to me through God's careful and creative planning
it takes a lot of maturity/strength to put your dreams on hold and give attention and care to something that may not seem very rewarding. when i heard for the first time that you had done this, i was amazed.
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I hope this only takes you off the path of education for a little while! You're a gifted thinker, and college needs you! Best wishes to you and your family.
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